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Welcome back to Stoned Sex<\/em><\/a>, the column where I\u2019ll be exploring the intersection of sex and sativas, intercourse and indicas, often through first-hand experience and interviews with experts.<\/em><\/p>\n

For this week\u2019s edition, we\u2019ll be discussing the intersection of weed and sex parties. ‘Stoned Sex’ will be running every other week, so make sure to stay tuned for the next dose.<\/em><\/p>\n

*Last names have been withheld to protect anonymity <\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cDon\u2019t fake orgasms\u201d read the sign on the mirror. I stood in the bathroom of the new Soho clubhouse called NSFW (the New Society for Wellness), and knew I was among my people. The club \u2014 which is now my go-to sex-and-cannabis-friendly underground venue \u2014 formed in New York City in 2014 and rose to media attention roughly two years ago. But not just anyone can attend. You must be a member to get in.<\/p>\n

I appreciated the wisdom on the mirror. Although I don\u2019t fake orgasms, I have had them without touching myself before, thanks to being higher than a 747 flying back from Amsterdam. Weed\u2019s magical sex power is the reason NSFW<\/u><\/a> is next level. But, truthfully, I don\u2019t get \u201c747\u201d stoned while I\u2019m there: I only get high enough to feel comfortable sucking dick in public. And as someone who doesn\u2019t drink alcohol, a sex-friendly cannabis club was a Goddess-send from our queen Mary (or MERRY) Jane. <\/p>\n

After going there several times as a sex and cannabis reporter \u2014 and enjoying myself so<\/em> much I came back strictly for social reasons \u2014 I determined that the best way for me to make use of the new space is to bring a partner I trust, introduce them to the community, and proceed to get my brains fucked out. And because stoned sex is so <\/em>mindblowing (that we dedicated a column to it!), it was only a matter of time before a place such as NSFW came (ahem<\/em>) into existence. <\/p>\n

And thank Satan it did. There are plenty of places in Manhattan to meet up for a drink, but there aren\u2019t many spots to share a joint with a date \u2014 or have sex on a bed in a Soho longue that looks like an upscale opium den. To learn more about the marriage of sex parties and weed, I spoke with Daniel Saynt, NSFW founder and chief conspirator, and a woman named Kim*, an LA-based writer who recently had her first stoned sex party experience \u2014 and it\u2019s one for the books. So read on, dear hedonists, and try to get on NSFW\u2019s waitlist; or create a sex and weed club in your own apartment. Because in the end: sex and weed are still<\/em> safer than booze. <\/p>\n

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Weed Makes Sex Feel Better, and Is a Natural Additive to Sex Parties<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Stoned sex freaks know what cannabis can do for your intimate life. For those who don\u2019t, it enhances touch and makes sex feel better. It helps us stay in the moment with our partner, promoting heightened connection. Of course, it can also calm nerves, which really helps with the weirdness of dating. <\/p>\n

\u201cIn general, when I use cannabis during sex acts, I am able to get really in tune with my body and the way that I\u2019m feeling,\u201d said Kim in an email. She attended her first sex party on 4\/20 and discovered that the sex vibrations of weed translate well to play parties. \u201cThis time was no different. I was so focused on every sensation I was feeling and everyone who was touching me. It didn\u2019t matter that there were like 30 people watching; I was so in the element of feeling my own pleasure.\u201d<\/p>\n

Research suggests that cannabis can enhance blood flow, increase senses, and decrease pain, which explains the physical benefits it has on people\u2019s sex life. But remember: the biggest sex organ is the brain. Before the physical symptoms of arousal kick in, the brain is turned on. The brain also controls commuication with our partners, which is crucial to good sex, and helps us express ourselves. Cannabis can also calm nerves and fight social anxiety, in addition to helping establish a connection with your partner(s). This is likely what allowed Kim to reach that moment of pure sensual transcendence at her play party.<\/p>\n

Using cannabis before and during a sex party is nothing new. But social clubs dedicated to cannabis and<\/em> sex are, such as NSFW, which explicitly blends the two. Their tagline is \u201ccannabis and sex,\u201d which aptly describes everything they\u2019re about. \u201cI\u2019m just surprised that no one\u2019s done it before,\u201d said Saynt. \u201cThey\u2019re two things that make my life so much better.\u201d <\/p>\n

There\u2019s also a third crucial ingredient: consent. \u201cFor NSFW, the focus has always been on consent culture,\u201d Saynt emphasized.  <\/p>\n

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Weed Is Safe, But Consent Still Matters<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

When organizing a play party, consent and pleasure go together like bong hits and Cheetos: you\u2019re doing it wrong if they don\u2019t coexist. Cannabis remains statistically safer<\/u><\/a> than most other drugs, especially alcohol, which is responsible for 88,000 deaths a year. All while cannabis sits at zero fatalities. That said, all substances \u2014 including cannabis \u2014 can impair your ability to give consent. Despite the risks that can create, many of us would still prefer to indulge in some social lubricant before having sex in front of others. <\/p>\n

Kim\u2019s first sex party was in the Hollywood Hills. She opted for cannabis that night not only because it was 4\/20, but also because she felt that weed was the safest option that sufficiently satisfied her needs. <\/p>\n

\u201cI didn\u2019t want to drink because I didn\u2019t want to get too drunk and have my inhibitions lowered too much and do something unsafe that I would regret,\u201d she said. \u201cGetting stoned seemed like the perfect solution to calm my nerves but also still be aware and in control.\u201d <\/p>\n

Kim also said that cannabis enhanced the welcoming and chill atmosphere of the event. \u201cEveryone was very friendly and welcoming when I told them it was my first time,\u201d Kim said. \u201cThere were condoms, lube, and wipes in every room, which I thought was so awesome.\u201d<\/p>\n

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